January 28, 2023
TRANSFORMATION
Becoming whole
Growing into the self
Shrinking the imprint of family trauma
Evolving/Metamorphosis – shedding skin and breaking habits
Maturity into Adult Self
Healing the childhood wounds
More balance between “old” and “new” joining together
Transformation is beautiful yet oddly PAINFUL
Shockingly so when the shedding process includes the shedding of unnecessary relationships
My case is the friendship – LG a lesson
Signs from the “beginning” stress transfer onto me about her move and decision it made me feel bad about myself for being a “bad friend”
I needed to learn that boundaries are still useful in the way I know how to use them – but they will be used against unexpected people – not the usual suspects when my mental health improves – others will not see me as the same person and that is OK!! – If they can’t handle me better than I was – then they need to do more work on themselves – not the other way around
I can’t please everybody and that’s ok
I choose me
I am not the one in need of the intervention – your projection onto me is clear
I will keep moving in my direction and you can stay behind
I can fully see now – how this relationship no longer benefits me, no longer suits me, and no longer is on the level with me
With growth comes change and sometimes the friendship changes too much to be relevant. I’m not upset that it happened and I’m grateful for the experience and lessons – But this friendship was a means to an end – and the END is here – time for me to move on
